Things That Make You Go "Grrr!"
People say the most ignorant things to those they think are "overweight". People also say some rather ignorant things to bellydancers. So if you're a full-figured bellydancer, you've probably heard more than your share of stupid comments coming from many directions!
And there's more. Although most of the bellydancing community welcomes dancers of all shapes and sizes, there's still that irritating small minority that doesn't. It's enough to make you commit violent acts with your sword!
Here's my list of "Things That Make You Go 'Grrr!'"
"I'll just bet you're a belly dancer! You've certainly got the belly for it! Ha ha ha!"
"She's too fat to be seen on stage!" (One professional dancer that I know said this about another. Ironically, the person she said this about was doing paid gigs 6 nights a week.)
"I tried to belly dance once, but I just didn't have enough flesh around my middle to make it look good. Now I'll bet you are really good!"
"You don't wear one of those skimpy costumes, do you?" (Said with a disdainful look at your body.)
The troupe director who accepts into her troupe only women who are so thin they look malnourished.
The troupe director who always puts her plus-sized dancers in the back row, despite the fact that they are better dancers than the people in the front row. She is probably related to the troupe director who puts her plus-sized dancers in the back row, despite the fact that the thin dancers in the front row are taller than them.
The troupe director who insists that everyone, including you, must wear a teeny-tiny troupe costume with a skimpy bra, bare midriff, and a long slit in the skirt that shows your entire bare leg all the way up to the "bird's nest".
Seminar sponsors who ask only thin dancers to perform in their shows.
The troupe director who tells you that you're not allowed to perform with the group in the next show unless you lose 10 pounds first.
Vendors with tables full of gorgeous costumes, none of them bigger than a U.S. size 10.
Vendors who look at you admiring their teeny tiny merchandise and snicker behind their hands.
Pattern makers whose sizes go only big enough to fit a U.S. size 14, leaving you to figure out the alterations on your own.
Vendors who mark U.S. size 12 as "extra large", following the lead of the idiotic fashion industry.
Vendors who feature only thin models in their catalogs, even for garments that are available in generous sizes. (Wouldn't it be nice to know what that garment might look like on your body type before you order it?)
Vendors who claim that "one size fits all". (Yeah, right. Have they looked around them lately at the size of real human beings who show up for belly dance classes, seminars, and festivals?)
"Yes, I make custom costumes. What size are you? Oops, no, I'm sorry, I don't know how to make them that big!"
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